Nothing can adequately prepare a parent for the loss of a child. Parents may have difficulty supporting each other, as the death of a child is profound for each of them. They may feel a shared failure and helplessness, may attribute blame to outsiders in differing ways, or may blame each other for the death. The differing styles of communication and expression of feelings may cause hurt, but may also draw the couple closer to each other. Each parent requires time and the unique nurturing that supports his or her own individual needs and personalities. Parents need support from each other, but benefit from care from those outside the marriage, as well.